The Best Kinds of Friends
I’ve seen and shared the meme, which reads “A true friend is the one you can go months without talking to and when you reconnect nothing has changed.” Living in different areas of New Jersey and making friends with people from all over the state throughout my life, I’ve found that it’s the friends that can fit into the category of that particular quote, that I want in my life the most. Being a full time working mom, life just gets in the way, and I simply cannot make the time in the day to talk on the phone like I could in the past.
So, here’s my list of the kinds of busy mom friends I need in my life:
“The friend that gets it”
She gets it because she literally lives it. She has to cart her kids around, make dinner, do laundry, make lunches, and still try to have some sanity left at the end of the day. This friend doesn’t need an explanation of why you haven’t called because she’s already texting about how she can barely make it through the day, and you can completely empathize. It is that empathy that makes that friend a keeper.
“The friend that will call you out”
She knows you’re busy and that you feel like your head is going to explode. But, she knows you need a glass of wine, or a night out, or someone to really vent to…and she pushes you to pull your hair into a messy bun and get out of the house! It’s sometimes easier to sulk in the messiness of your life. But, at the end of the day, we all need someone to give us that little push to allow ourselves some fun.
“The friend that will still give you space”
This friend tries to push you to leave your comfort zone, but can recognize that you just want to veg out by yourself and watch Netflix with a glass of wine all ALONE. She can understand the times that you need the extra push versus when you need to be by yourself. That, my friends, is balance.
“The supportive friend that doesn’t judge”
Finally, this friend is important because we all judge ourselves enough. We need to know we have someone in our lives that will support us at times that they may disagree with our choices. Or, someone that can come over and overlook the messy floors or unfolded laundry. They will support us unconditionally throughout the ebbs and flows of life.
At the end of the day, we need someone who will be there for us NO MATTER WHAT. Friends come in and out of our lives at different times, but the ones that last the longest are the ones that can fulfill that list above throughout time.
Busy moms need friends, too. Share with your friends and let them know you love them.
